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Sh*t Happens

21/9/2017

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Article by Rachael Kingstone
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Have you heard high achievers and experts say ‘focus on your vision and go for it’? James Kuegler is great at helping people create ‘hairy audacious goals’ and then set about going after them. However, what happens when you go after these and along the way you do not reach the heights you imagined you would? For instance you get seriously injured, there is a bereavement in the family, work circumstances change or possibly you are in the middle of the race of your dreams and you break a leg (literally).
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That final example happened to me. So, shit happens and it will happen to you. What I have discovered, like many before me is that your personal attributes and taking proactive steps can assist you to either keep fighting the good fight and going after that same goal or adapting to create something incredible and even better than your original goal.

Firstly, during the setting of your goals proactively being very specific with the challenges that you could or do face and endeavouring to create action plans around them. This could involve simply figuring out what the plan is when your child is unwell or maybe you need to ensure you have the knowledge to provide the antidote to snake venom whilst running in the Amazon. James Kuegler is fabulous at assisting you to control as many uncontrollables as possible.
 
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flexibility. No not the mobility and stretches that are important for performance. Flexibility in this context is the ability to react to the new unwelcomed situation and adapting accordingly. Taking space to reset, re-evaluate in order to make the best decision at the time and move forward. Perhaps prior to a race the aeroplane is delayed and new plans need to be made or perhaps during a race you are faced with a race ending injury.

Big disappointments really hurt.
Self-forgiveness is needed in such circumstances. This ensures you can heal and lovingly forgive the pain and hurt you feel whether that is physical or mental. If it doesn’t hurt from a mental perspective then it likely was not a large enough dream or goal. Allowing yourself this time and space is often required when the motivation to run is low, when the fun has reduced and you are literally running on empty.

However, even after specific goals, adapting and self-forgiveness, your
support network is essential, if not the most important. These are the friends, family, professionals and coaches whom can perform the simplest of loving, caring and at times ruthless actions that propel you towards your initial goal or a brand spanking new one with motivation and energy. For instance, the shoe or sock change during an ultra-marathon where you are incapable of doing so. Or maybe when you have not reached your initial dream, a coach points out the fabulous new race overseas which catches your attention. The support network pats you off and assists you to your feet.

In order to reap the rewards of these tips in times of struggle it is important to start implementing them NOW. Does your goal have the flexibility, the support network and the specifics required to manage anything that crops up in your road? Can you forgive yourself for the little things in life now? Because if you cannot forgive for the smallest of ‘failures’, then it will be challenging to forgive the bigger more hurtful ones.

If you start implementing these steps now, in the future when you have gone after the ‘big hairy audacious’ goal and tripped up along the way, you will find incredible resources within yourself and your support network to allow you to climb even higher next time. And maybe you’ll be part of a support network for someone else and can share this article to keep them chasing that big hairy audacious’ goal! So keep in mind, yes ‘shit’ does happen and yet it can lead to the most courageous and most fulfilling of achievements in the long-term. What will you choose to do when it happens to you?

Article by Rachael Kingstone.
NLP Trainer at Inspiration Activated.
Physiotherapist at Physio Moves.

7 Comments
keith crook
21/9/2017 08:13:29 am

Great article Rachael, good timing as I am coming back from shit happening. Self forgiveness is so important and something most of us are not good at.

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Tom Nicholas
21/9/2017 08:52:17 am

Great read. Two years of continuous frustration has definitely taught me to adapt. Still in the weeds but love the challenge. JK Coaching keeps it real my family keep me honest, and my drive helps me reach. See you at training..

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Terri Bidwell
21/9/2017 08:56:39 am

When one door shuts another one opens. I would probably never have done a 10k swim ( have done 3 now) or done the Pioneer MTB stage race if I had not been off running due to serious injuries ( including a broken pelvis which turned out to be a magic blessing for my swimming ability )

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Nicky Page
21/9/2017 10:39:30 am

Great article Rachael! It can be every overwhelming and mentally challenging when you are focused on something so important to you personally and sh*t happens to stop or slow you. I think it's important to be able to put disappointments into perspective in the greater scheme of life and the support network we have put around us will make all the difference in our ability to move forward. That's one thing I think that makes the JK Team stand out, and that is their ability to share not only their incredible knowledge with each other but also their level of care and support too :)

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PatriciaHP
22/9/2017 07:28:12 am

Hey Rachel. Very neat to see you in print :-) Wise words a good read.

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Mark Colthart link
22/9/2017 11:23:00 am

Love your work Rach. Really well expressed!

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Rachel S
23/9/2017 09:14:37 am

There's a lot of shit happening here and to read this has helped a lot
Thanks for sharing it

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