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The Paradox of Tolerance

27/8/2017

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Article by Matt Rayment

I am not a big fan of Runner’s World. I have nothing against them per se, however it’s usual content does not necessarily hold my attention. That changed recently when I chanced upon an article highlighting a woman’s experience that simultaneously turned my stomach and made my blood boil.

Dr. Laurah Lukin (Ph.D. Who in addition to being an Assistant Dean and Professor at the University of Cincinnati Medical School is an elite level marathoner with an impressive list of wins under her belt), posted a photo of her running in the Little Miami Half Marathon. At first glance it becomes evident that her form is efficient, Laurah’s upper body is both proud and relaxed, her head is held high and she appears focussed, strong, and engaged. A friend of Laura’s rightfully pointed out “Look at them muscles in those legs” which was met by the response of a man whom Laurah did not know, who stated “That’s because she doesn’t have any damn clothes on and she is running for her life” followed shortly by a second comment, “No wonder joggers get raped”. Laurah was wearing running clothes. A singlet and running briefs, absolutely appropriate attire in the circumstance.
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Photo Cincy Photography
It would be too easy to fly into a defence of Laurah’s attire from the perspective of a runner, that is, short shorts are the jam. They work great. They make you feel fast and if you feel fast, you’ll be fast. But this misses the point entirely. The point is; A woman can wear whatever she wants without it being an invitation to, or an aggravating factor in, a sexual assault.

​Yes, you could argue that this is a universal right, and indeed it is; We are all entitled to feel safe, however it is almost universally women that bear the brunt of this unsavory rhetoric. Take me as a prime example. A forty year old, strongly built European man who runs passionately and will only wear short shorts and if the conditions are favourable, a singlet. If you invited comment on the image of me below vs. the one of Laurah you can bet your bottom dollar that mine would not receive the sinister feedback that Laurah’s photo garnered. Indeed I would suggest the captions that I have put underneath my photos highlight the sheer incongruence of the idea. I can, as a man, wear what I want, when I want, with very little fear of recrimination or negative consequence. Certainly, It would be very unlikely that I would be accused of offering myself up for being raped because I rock a 3” inseam.
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"Asking for it with those thighs". “Letting it all hang out, eh? Those pork chops are a bit fat for those shorts aren’t they, chunky?”.
I was instantly intrigued at what kind of man would post such a comment on a woman’s social media account. So I looked on his profile. Needless to say, many of the stereotypes about this gentleman’s objective expression of well being, political affiliation and overarching sense of paranoia ring true. It would be all too easy to ridicule this man, but I will not. Okay, so  the one where he posted “ We are being chemically feminized! Is it politically motivated?” is just too good not to repeat (I am only human).I bet this man is catching some heat from certain circles and I can just imagine his aggrieved response “It’s MY freedom of speech that is being trodden on! You (insert epithet here i.e. Snowflakes, Cucks, Libtards, Commies, Male Nurses) preach tolerance however as a MAN expressing my views I’m the one being victimised!!!”. And on the face of it, I guess, he has a point doesn’t he? Shouldn’t we as people who expouse tolerance, tolerate this man’s right to intolerance? Well, in a word; No. The very  idea of tolerance is paradoxical in nature, and is best summed up by Dr Karl Popper, who wrote in his 1945 work “The Open Society and Its Enemies” that;

“Unlimited tolerance must lead to the disappearance of tolerance. If we extend unlimited tolerance even to those who are intolerant, if we are not prepared to defend a tolerant society against the onslaught of the intolerant, then the tolerant will be destroyed, and tolerance with them.” [1]

So, if then we are morally bound to confront intolerance  of all forms as and where we find it, how do we go about challenging what seems like an increasingly global narrative?The answer is: Act locally.

Challenge behaviour that is inappropriate when you see it, be that of a sexually inappropriate, racially hateful or discrimination around gender  if it is safe to do so, and if not then contact authorities that are mandated to deal with inappropriate behaviour. The road to intolerance is paved with indifference.

Communicate on social media as if you expect to see that person around the corner in five minutes time. Cyberspace affords us all distance. Being removed from the person we may be commenting on both hides us from witnessing the person’s response and distress and likewise keeps us safe from any negative feedback from the person in question. I grew up pre internet. In my youth, if you said something to someone, especially something unpleasant, damn straight you had to back it up. There was no hiding. Words have consequence. Remember that and act accordingly.

(These last few are specific to running because ostensibly these articles are about running, however they are just as easily transcribed into everyday life).

Be an ally. No, bros. When it comes to women who run, just be cool! I would suggest the following:

Keep your unsolicited critical feedback to yourself.

If you are going to give praise, praise performance, not appearance (and never with a qualifier i.e.” for a girl”).

Never touch unless invited to (Right?).

ABOVE ALL ELSE: Take responsibility for your own actions and thoughts. No one makes anyone do anything by virtue of their gender, age, race, faith or in this case, attire.

Reference:

Popper, Karl, The Open Society and Its Enemies, volume 1, The Spell of Plato, 1945 (Routledge, United Kingdom); ISBN 0-415-29063-5 978-0-691-15813-6 (1 volume 2013 Princeton ed.)
4 Comments
Neville Robertson
28/8/2017 08:36:41 am

Great piece Matt. And good on James Kuegler for carrying it.

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Matt Rayment
28/8/2017 09:23:35 am

Thanks Neville! It was JK idea to write the piece. Horrendous that these attitudes exist

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Sean McWilliams
4/9/2017 09:33:12 am

Great piece Matt, but a shame it needed to be written. It's deplorable that these attitudes not only exist, but are being expressed more and more on a range of issues from rape culture, gender diversity, sexuality, ethnicity, and poverty. We are no more inured to them here in NZ than anywhere else in the world, and people need to take a good, long look at themselves and the people they choose to associate with when comments like the one's about Laurah are made. By not countering them, we are implicitly offering endorsement. Love the use of Popper as well, a personal favourite.

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Marguerite Maessen link
7/9/2017 12:34:51 am

As a single almost 50 female, with a fairly muscular runners body, I come across inappropriate comments and aporoaches frequently, and find that most come from younger men in their 30's. It seems to me that men of this age group have a culture of objectifying women and believe it is their right to use women for sexual gratification and perfectly acceptable to have multiple partners at the same time. In some cases if you turn down their advances they become insulted and react by sending you pictures of their anatomy that you would prefer not to see, unless you were in a long-term intimate relationship, or worse still videos of them playing with said anatomy. I find this attitude offensive and really dangerous, yet there are young women who allow this behaviour and participate in this male dominant behaviour willingly, perhaps there is a lack of self-esteem and self-respect. This really needs to change and these men need to be pulled up about inappropriate behaviour toward women as this is promoting the attitude of rape culture that is appearing in the again younger generation, such as the "Auckland Roast Busters". I find it disturbing, as the mother of a teenage girl, wondering what our daughters in future may be expected to tolerate as normal or acceptable behaviour that clearly degrades and objectifies the female sex.

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